I’ve been accused of being a male basher. Now I don’t know who is telling that lie..|looks around|..hmph LIES..LOL. Okay, yes I have bashed one or two in my sordid past, but in this post I don’t want to bash, but I do want to put those who use the term “man” loosely on notice. Y’all feel me? Mmmhm, I know you do. Let me also say that I do not agree with the term “a good man”. If you are a man then you’re good. If you a male acting out then you are not considered a man and you just a male acting out and failing at your attempt to grow tha fuck up. You, sir, get a F.
First, let me just inform you from my own humble knowledge, that one is either born male or female. One is NOT born a man or a woman. You understand? The latter two are grown and in that period of growth have learned certain behaviors – hopefully, that entitle them to own it. Now please don’t get it twisted, “man”, yes you are grown, but it does not mean that you are mature enough to handle all that comes with the male badge of honor. Yes that’s what I call it. When one has achieved certain things, done certain things, i.e. has proven himself worthy. Then and only then can he sport the badge and call himself a man. Stop it ‘lil boys. Let me give you a clue as to what a man is and what skills he must acquire and put to great use in order for him to fix his lips to hum. Alright I said I wasn’t gonna do it..no bashing… so I digress…|takes a deep breath|. Okay. Let’s get into it.
A MAN IS ONE WHO IS ..
- Attentive: “Where the fuck you at?! |snap snap| HELLER.”
A man pays attention to details, his family, his woman, his child support, his style, his tape, his hygiene, his friends, his pets, his bills, voice and text messages from his significant or insignificant other (THOT), his bank account. A man listens.
- Respectful: “Say whah?! ‘SCUSE ME?”
A man is respectful of other ‘s’ time, feelings, thoughts, modus operandi, personal space, obligations, finances, menstrual cycle, decisions. A man treats others how he wants to be treated.
- Decisive: “Can you make up your mind?! GYAAD DAYUM.”
A man is able to take control, stand by and stand firm on his decisions and not waver. His thought process is organized and the decisions that he makes are made with conviction. His choices are smart and calculated.
- Dependable: “What you doin’?!”
A man is someone one can depend on to stay true to his word. If he says he’s going to do something, he does it. When he says he’s going to be somewhere, he’s there. When he says he’s interested in you, he shows it. The bottom line is a man is only as good as his word; a man is what a man does. Therefore, if he says one thing and shows you the opposite, trust that and RUN..in the opposite direction.
A man is chivalrous, respectful, has good manners, is polite, does not curse at you or ridicule you in public, is thoughtful, has regard for other’s feelings, time, and space. He is careful with his tongue…hmmm…mmmmm..oh umm he is not quick-tempered and slow-moving i.e. he is not easily angered over bullshit and if so – because I respect that he is human, he is not slow at owning his role in it, taking a breath, and apologizing |snap|.
Ok so ‘nuff said..’cause I can go on and on as others have since Adam. ..smh. Know your role my male counterparts. Read up. In a future article I want to celebrate you, but one has got to step up and bring it. Again, this writing was not to bash “men”. Hopefully it has enlightened a few lost souls and set those straight who were wavering. Although helpful, it takes more than a big dick to make this pussy wet.
Until the next post…
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Disclaimer: There are many definitions of what a man is from the Bible on down. The opinions stated here are clearly my own and have been bred through my own experiences and the experiences of others known personally to me.
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